Archive for the ‘Negative attitudes’ Category

My staff just seem out to get me!

Fri
15th Oct
2010

No matter what you do there are some members of your team that just seem to be out to get you. They treat what you say with suspicion, disagree at every opportunity, are negative when you are positive and sometimes down right aggressive towards you and your ideas. And here you are trying your best to be the most professional of managers. Why do some people seem to just have it in for you?

The first thing is to relax and take an objective view of what is going on and take comfort from the fact that it is rarely a personal dislike of you – much more often it is a response to the job role that you hold. Easy and logical to say but still frustrating and demoralising to experience.

So what to do? How can you resolve this situation?

I guess, to be fair, you just need to check out if there is any justification behind your team members’ comments and responses. Find a trusted and experienced friend, work colleague, mentor or coach, one that will tell you the truth, and discuss the situation fully with them.

To attempt to improve the situation it helps to understand why staff may be acting in such a destructive way. Individuals can treat you, the manager, aggressively because they sub-consciously formed a negative opinion of authority figures early in their life (from parents, teachers, or former bosses). They now treat all authority figures as being the same whether they are or not. Psychologists call this transference, the transfer of feelings and emotions created from an experience with one person to another. Of course, taking this approach becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, their poor behaviour and attitude is likely to produce a tough managerial response from the boss which then re-enforces their opinion of bosses!! Whew, what a depressing circle of behaviour to be trapped within!

However, you can break the pattern. This means, despite the provocation to act as they expect you to act, behaving as you would do with one of your most positive employees – genuinely respecting and valuing them as such. This can, sometimes, produce startling results where the employee that no manager wanted to take off your hands (and you tried!) can become one of your stars. It is worth trying and if it works great. And if it does not at least you know you were not provoked into behaving as the manager from hell.

If you do not get a positive change then it is time to review the situation. Sometimes you are dealing with issues that are so deep and so established that there is very little that you can have an impact on.

Do, however, take action. Do not allow yourself to be effectively bullied by one of your subordinates. What action to take is very dependent upon the specific situation you find yourself in. Ideally you will have other managers and an HR team to discuss the situation with or, if you do not know where to start, or have no HR department to speak with, be sure to gain the support you need and contact us here.

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How to … Performance Manage those Close to Retirement

Wed
01st Sep
2010

Clock ticking down to retirement

Imagine the scenario – you are 62 yrs old with only 3 years to retirement. You have seen older colleagues ‘lift their foot off the peddle’ as they approached retirement and consequently either do nothing for 3 years or be ‘persuaded’ to take early retirement with the appropriate financial compensation. So why would you continue to work hard?

Is this the reality you, as the manager, want to create in your organisation? Allowing it to be expected and OK for older staff to drift and coast down to their retirement party? Resulting in the organisation paying a salary for no return and having a negative impact on younger staff who see them ‘getting away with it’?

But how can you create a different reality, how do you effectively performance manage staff close to retirement?

First, it is always worth considering the reality of the other person – in this case what the pre-retirement employee is experiencing. The closest most of us have to something similar is resigning and working out a notice period.   Most certainly I have found it difficult to motivate myself during the last months and I have witnessed others struggling to keep their commitment to a professional standard. The difference here is that a pre-retirement employee has 2 – 3 years to work through as opposed to 1 – 3 months! Suddenly it is not so surprising that work commitment falls off before retirement.

Do not give up! There are ways to maintain, or even increase, their motivation levels:

  1. Talk to the individual about their legacy, leaving something behind that they would feel proud of achieving – either a specific project or training a replacement with their valuable skills and knowledge.
  2. Paint a picture of their retirement party. State that you want colleagues to being genuine about missing them and thanking them for what they have contributed rather than being privately relieved that they are leaving.
  3. Talk about the demoralising effect on them of ‘going through the motions’ for 3 years – that no-one deserves that draining and depressing experience, and certainly not them. You want their last years to be their most rewarding years!
  4. Show your appreciation for their expertise and experience. Show that you value their contribution. Ask them what they would consider to be the most valuable improvement they could make to business before they leave.

Do not expect this to be a one hit resolution! Conversations with one individual, who was settling for an ‘OK job’ for his last four years of work, lasted 9 months before he applied for his ‘ideal job’ within the company. It took some time to get over his ‘What’s the point?’, ‘Why bother?’ attitude. However, gentle persistence in not allowing him to drift resulted in him being re-invigorated with real job satisfaction whilst the organisation received a valuable contribution from him.

Lastly, if working with them to lift their motivation levels does not work and they continue to produce poor work, or display a negative attitude, seriously consider formal disciplinary action as you would do for any employee. You may not have the timescale to gain a result with this individual but consider the message taking such action provides to the rest of the workforce. Simply put, that you expect a fair day’s work for a fair day’s pay and if you do not receive it you take action.

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What to Say when Staff Say ‘Yes, But’

Sun
23rd May
2010


So you are providing some necessary feedback and the only response you are receiving is ‘Yes, but’. You might even be seeing them physically looking around trying to find the next ‘Yes, but’ excuse to pluck from the air!

The previous blog post listed out the possible reasons why people may be responding with ‘Yes, but’ and now lets look at what you can say and do to get past this block. (more…)

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Why do People say ‘Yes, but’?

Sat
15th May
2010

OK – you are in a performance feedback situation, either informal or formal. You have thought about what you want to say and have stated it in a neutral and objective manner but the only response you get is a series of ‘Yes, buts’. What can you do to get past this impasse and onto improving things in the future?

Well there are several different approaches one can take – determined by why this individual is responding with ‘Yes, but’. And these would be: (more…)

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One Negative Employee = Exhaustion!

Mon
26th Apr
2010

Exhausted by negative employee
Sometimes I can forget the impact that just one negative team member can have on a group of people and on the leader. But this was brought home to me once again just the other week whilst delivering a workshop.

Right from the moment this one individual entered the room it was clear that they considered training courses to be a waste of time. Unfortunately, they successfully recruited two of their friends to join them in sitting with backs to the main group, arms folded and whispering amongst themselves.

I attempted to engage with them and to encourage them to make a contribution to the discussions and exercises. But nothing had an impact and their behaviour continued. (more…)

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I hate, I hate my job!

Sun
28th Mar
2010

It was just a couple of weeks ago when a manager at a workshop came up to me and said that one of his team members had recently told him that she hated, hated her job!

He seemed unsure how to respond and I asked whether he felt it was being said for dramatic effect or for real. He rather thought it was for real.

This is serious! No-one who hates their job will perform it well. But how to respond if a member of the team says something similar to you. (more…)

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